shoop ([info]mcfnord) wrote in [info]weblogsociology,

MindMap = Friendship Patterns

MindMap shows complex friendship relationships using visual clues to describe whole communities of friends.

A Portal to another MindMap!A Portal to another MindMap!the wilderness, Heard and McDonald Islands - A Portal to another MindMap!Tooth and Klaw, Neutral Zone - A Portal to another MindMap!British Indian Ocean Territory - A Portal to another MindMap!Lisbon, Portugal - A Portal to another MindMap!Brooklyn, New York - A Portal to another MindMap!Sunnyvale , CA - A Portal to another MindMap!Los Angeles, California - A Portal to another MindMap!A Portal to another MindMap!Palm Springs, California - A Portal to another MindMap!Victoria, British Columbia, Canada - A Portal to another MindMap!New York, New York - A Portal to another MindMap!Fresno, California - A Portal to another MindMap!Brooklyn, New York - A Portal to another MindMap!Dist. of Columbia - A Portal to another MindMap!New York, New York - A Portal to another MindMap!Pylea, Neutral Zone - A Portal to another MindMap!Seattle, Washington - A Portal to another MindMap!cloud-hidden, whereabouts unknown, Antarctica - A Portal to another MindMap!A Portal to another MindMap!the state that brought you Shiny Disco Balls, New Jersey - A Portal to another MindMap!Seattle, Washington - A Portal to another MindMap!Gaithersburg, Maryland - A Portal to another MindMap!London-ish, United Kingdom - A Portal to another MindMap!A Portal to another MindMap!Key Biscayne, Florida - A Portal to another MindMap!A Portal to another MindMap!Medina, Ohio - A Portal to another MindMap!Akron, Ohio - A Portal to another MindMap!Philadelphia, Pennsylvania - A Portal to another MindMap!Virgin Islands - A Portal to another MindMap!Utah - A Portal to another MindMap!A Portal to another MindMap!Norman, Oklahoma - A Portal to another MindMap!Somewhere over the rainbow, in a blue sun temple, Belgium - A Portal to another MindMap!Sweet Home Chicago, Illinois - A Portal to another MindMap!Beaver Falls, Pennsylvania - A Portal to another MindMap!Santa Fe, New Mexico - A Portal to another MindMap!Canada - A Portal to another MindMap!A Portal to another MindMap!Portland, Oregon       Friends - A Portal to another MindMap!Portland, Oregon - A Portal to another MindMap!Seattle, Washington - A Portal to another MindMap!Baltimore, Maryland - A Portal to another MindMap!Styx, Canada - A Portal to another MindMap!RATT CITY, Georgia - A Portal to another MindMap!Tampa, Florida - A Portal to another MindMap!San Rafael , CA - A Portal to another MindMap!Seattle, Washington - A Portal to another MindMap!Seattle, Washington - A Portal to another MindMap!Oakland , CA - A Portal to another MindMap!SydneyMaayet, Fials Suoth Nwe, Australia - A Portal to another MindMap!New Orleans, Louisiana - A Portal to another MindMap!Winterpeg! <3, Canada - A Portal to another MindMap!A Portal to another MindMap!Costa Mesa , CA - A Portal to another MindMap!Denmark - A Portal to another MindMap!San Francisco, California - A Portal to another MindMap!Moscow, USSR (former) - A Portal to another MindMap!Brooklyn, New York - A Portal to another MindMap!A Portal to another MindMap!A Portal to another MindMap!Mc Keesport, Pennsylvania - A Portal to another MindMap!Raleigh, North Carolina - A Portal to another MindMap!San Francisco, California - A Portal to another MindMap!Friends - A Portal to another MindMap!A Portal to another MindMap!A Portal to another MindMap!ATL, Georgia - A Portal to another MindMap!Kalamazoo, Michigan - A Portal to another MindMap!Ophiussae, PortugalBackwards, Neutral ZoneEthereal, Neutral ZoneMany people ask me what it means, or how to read it. People often think the bigger, more central names are an estimation of who their best friends are. I don't see this group like that. Instead, the big, central names are likely to be a good estimation of who you are. If I see a stranger's MindMap, and I know some of the people in the central core, the things I know about them probably describe the stranger pretty well, too.

I always see two major groups when I look at my MindMap. One is "funny, nervous people". They're blue here, north of me. I call the other group "Euro-art anarchists". They're big, in green. Even though every MindMap I've made for myself is different, they all show these two groups. This is because everyone within these groups is a reader of everyone else. If you think about it, if five people all read each other, those five people have made 20 separate friendship decisions! Yet they probably didn't sit down one day and decide to friend each other. It happened over time, for its own myserious but undeniable reasons.

With most browsers, you can hover your mouse over names in a MindMap to see where some people live. People who have their own MindMaps have [brackets] around their names, and you can click to go to their MindMap. Using brackets, you can surf around groups near you, and perhaps learn more about your neighborhood. Often I see core groups all living in the same city. [info]distantsun's MindMap even shows a Perth, Australia core, a London, England smaller core, and a cluster of other Europeans beyond that. It's practically a history lesson.

Sometimes I see LJ'ers in a solid core of friends... from all over the world. You can be LJ friends with four other people throughout the world. But what does it mean when all five of you are friends with each other? That's 20 independent choices! That has to mean something... but what?

My friend [info]zeet called this an "unconscious psychological organization". It's unlikely these people sat down and promised to all read each other. And they're not living in the same city, either. Instead, they've met in an entirely mental space, and for specific, unique reasons, found a kinship together.

Before I saw my 2 inner cores, I had no clue what they might be. But seeing those groups around me, I can say that I definitely find myself drawn to them! I remember the day I discovered most of those journals for the first time, and just knew this was someone very special. I wondered why the pull felt so strong.

These are not the questions MindMap can answer. It can only show you the data, but it can't explain why. So many things bring people together (or push them apart). What makes friendships grow, and communities form? People have formed tribes, clubs, and parties since the beginning of time. Political parties try to represent the values of groups of people. Forming groups seems part of our human nature, and groups are at the heart of headlines and world events. Loneliness is as big a risk to your health as smoking.

Sociologists and political scientists have looked at many facets of personality and beliefs. Liberal or conservative, hostile or friendly, dominant or submissive? And people share cultural, religious, age, or other bonds. I think all these factors blend to build our friendship networks.

I want to hear your thoughts on friendship networks.
  • What factors do you think create them?
  • Are they ever planned?
  • Is there a limit to their potential size?
  • Have you experienced a whole group splitting apart?
This is a space for your questions, ideas, and discussion around this complex and fascinating topic. I'd like to hear your observations and ideas.



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[info]aeonvolupz

March 2 2004, 08:02:06 UTC 8 years ago

friendship ... patterns


... hmmmmm ... cyberrelationships .... fascinating.

I would 'friend' you for this post alone (unconscious and psychological reasons? ) ... this really is one of my favorite topics ... however, lol, I think you would agree that my 'friending' is indeed due to more specific and unique reasons

wow ,,, good to see you, jd ,,, long time

[info]mcfnord

March 3 2004, 15:19:48 UTC 8 years ago

what a pleasant surprise. one of those things that makes you say, in hindsight, "of course we'd wander into each other".

i think open source, blogs, and online communities are the best anachistic and non-commercial response to the rise of corporate web branding. i think in some significant ways blog communities are beginning to exceed what a search engine and traditional web hiarchy can offer. what's a better connector and match to a specific and unique mind than like minds?

to like minds,

john

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[info]anaisdjuna

March 4 2004, 10:59:57 UTC 8 years ago

Deeply cool



Wow! I like this alot! Gonna read how it reeeaaallly works. Friendship networks are fascinating. Kind of like the patterns of bees pollinating flowers.

1. Mutual interests create them. Curiosity creates them. A drive to self-actualize through learning from others creates them....Inspiration creates....

2. Some are. Some aren't. My new LJ friends are more & less planned.

3. Time limits them to some degree. But I see no grounds for a size limit. The more the merrier!

4. I'm new to LJ so No. In real life...yes.

[info]cos

March 23 2004, 14:45:52 UTC 8 years ago

documentation?

I followed all the links in "Learn More about MindMap", as well as the links on the mindmap site itself, and still haven't found any documention of these mindmaps. I understand that it has something to do with clusters of users with mutual friendships, but what do the colors mean? What do the sizes mean? What does the spatial arrangement of names mean? I ran across mindmap by seeing a friend's post asking these kinds of questions, and figured I could find the answers by looking at the site... but I couldn't.

I'd make a donation if I understood what I was getting :)

[info]mcfnord

March 23 2004, 22:10:24 UTC 8 years ago

I don't know if the individual parts can be broken down as precisely as the meaning of the whole. Placement can suggest meaning... or perhaps not. Color, too, only occasionally demonstrates a meaning. I do write about color in my essay, above. Color *similarity* implies more meaning than the colors themselves. And size... the larger people are part of the larger groups. I do think this is described elsewhere. It strays from my intent to give a scientific and precise meaning to every detail. Instead it has to be viewed as a whole piece.

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[info]shadesong

March 24 2004, 09:58:30 UTC 8 years ago

It won't generate one for me; I've tried twice. :(

[info]mcfnord

March 24 2004, 12:16:03 UTC 8 years ago

It's cuz you have so darned many friendship connections!!! Over 600! But I gave it a whole hour and it finally finished.

Pick it up at

http://ljmindmap.com/pickup/pickup.aspx?name=shadesong

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[info]none_too_subtle

March 24 2004, 17:01:09 UTC 8 years ago

I ended up here somehow, whilst trying to map my friends

My friends find me (traditionally) through their friends. I think they friend me because they respect the common friend. Not sure. I've had many 'strangers' friend me from out of the blue. I don't always reciprocate; plus I've noticed if I 86 any 'friend' they go psycho.

EXPLAIN THAT! LOL :)

[info]mcfnord

March 24 2004, 18:28:16 UTC 8 years ago

Nobody wants to lose a friend! I'm the sort who goes a little psycho when people reject me. So I try not to pay attention to that list.

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[info]rube

April 5 2004, 14:39:16 UTC 8 years ago

No map for me :/

I've been waiting since March 23rd... Still no map. Is it broken or is it my b.o.?

[info]mcfnord

April 5 2004, 15:04:05 UTC 8 years ago

ha ha no b.o., and yes, you requested on March 23rd. I am faced with an extreme demand and limited ability to create supply. I'm working both sides of this problem... but really I had no idea how huge LJ was, or how interested people would be.

Currently I'm working on a backlog of 1,680 people. Sometimes people give me a dollar and get done next, but certainly I'll complete yours eventually in any case. Sorry about the delay.

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[info]rowanf

April 13 2004, 09:25:32 UTC 8 years ago

Thanks for doing the color map! I hadn't quite realized one clicks on a name and goes there. *laugh* Mine hasn't loaded more than about halfway in the last two+ hours of trying it though. Is that a server thing?

[info]mcfnord

April 13 2004, 10:22:50 UTC 8 years ago

quirks, quirks, quirks! It should be fixed now.

[info]fairyonfire

April 14 2004, 23:07:54 UTC 8 years ago

your friend [info]spoonfeeding knows my friend [info]hey_montana. and the reason i'm looking at this community is because i found it through [info]puffpastry, and i found her because she knows my friends [info]funkydoda and [info]rival (both of whom i know in real life and went to school with at one point, but i don't think they know each other). craziness, huh?

[info]mcfnord

April 15 2004, 11:16:59 UTC 8 years ago

i oscillate between seeing lj as really huge and really small. welcome!

[info]kai_

April 20 2004, 12:29:15 UTC 8 years ago

What does it mean that one user has a box around her name in my mindmap?

[info]mcfnord

April 20 2004, 13:47:58 UTC 8 years ago

That's a Portal! Click it to go to that user's mindmap!

[info]ironed_orchid

April 24 2004, 06:58:05 UTC 8 years ago

OK, I've read a few of the posts and comments on how the mind map works and I'm still a bit confused about a couple of things.

Mostly, I was very surprised to find that a person, namely [info]burkean, with whom I have 15 friends in common doesn't appear anywhere on my map (although his second journal, [info]deadauthor, which I had defriended before I ordered my map, is there). Several of the people in our group of mutual friends turns up in large font, so it seemed really strange that he should be absent.

[info]mcfnord

April 25 2004, 03:51:11 UTC 8 years ago

After preventing (but not explaining) an occasional bug that resulted in Major omissions, I'm moving in on occasional phantoms of singular disappearing peeps. You and burkean read each other, so he should appear on your map. That's the rule and it's a hard rule. Unfortunately I have shed the dataset where his raw data was stored in my local database, making this phantom a bit too unchaseable. Re-assure burkean that you're still his best friend. I am cross-eye tired.

[info]my_ophelia

April 26 2004, 09:57:05 UTC 8 years ago

When I originally signed up, I opted out for the paypal. Knowing how much work you're doing, and how cool this really is, I'd like to actually make a donation. How can I do so and at the same time bump myself up the list?

[info]ringring

April 27 2004, 08:59:06 UTC 8 years ago

I'm amazed by the fact you managed to place my boyfriend closest to me (even though he doesn't update his journal and I never told who he is), my other journal (which I kind of keep a secret), my best friend (both screen names), the girl I'm moving in with next week, my other good friend, the girl who knows one of my deepest darkest secrets...all of them in big letters and close to me. There were some in small type I though probably shouldn't have been, but that's amazing.

http://www.livejournal.com/users/circuscat/392006.html#cutid1

[info]blue_jay

April 29 2004, 00:40:19 UTC 8 years ago

Perhaps use http://www.bitpass.com/ for small donations?

[info]mcfnord

April 29 2004, 09:12:45 UTC 8 years ago

Thanks for the link. Looks interesting. But the content is on IIS (doesn't have to be I guess). If it was on Apache I'd give this a try. PayPal is fine. Every so often some joker sends me a nickel and 100% goes to PayPal. I wish they'd just write me a haiku or something. PayPal doesn't need donations.

[info]thrames

May 15 2004, 05:51:11 UTC 8 years ago

Before I answer and comment and so on, I'd like to thank you for doing this; it is really cool and definitely an intellectual exercise. I applaud you for your efforts.

What factors do you think creates them?

Among them would be shared experiences, spirituality, politics, interests, curiousity, music, and things of that nature (cultural similarities, one might say). Another set of factors that might create the friendship networks are, as you suggested, shared locations which would lead to shared experiences (geographical proximity). Yet another factor might be people who have an interest in each other for reasons which have no apparent cause (emotional factors).

Are they ever planned?

I'd say usually, they aren't planned. Most people just sorta get together based on their shared goals, interests, etc. However, as humans are a weird species, some people might decide to round up people who share some criterion and form a group (a Livejournal Community searching through interest lists for potential members, for example).

Is there a limit to their potential size?

Only insomuch as a person can remember everyone they are friends with. There would be inherent differences, I would think. Using my own friendship network as an example: I like everyone who is on it, but there are notably more acquaintances on it than friends. Thus, I think close friends would definitely have limit, but acquaintances is only limited by how many people a person wishes to have some acquaintance with.

Have you experienced a whole group splitting apart?

Thankfully, not really. I'm still only 18, though, so that might change in the future.

[info]thrames

May 15 2004, 05:59:35 UTC 8 years ago

Oh, and I forgot to ask, what's up with the brackets around some names?

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[info]_1ateniteovrdos

May 17 2004, 09:42:39 UTC 8 years ago

do you remember when livejournal used to have friendship maps
they dont have it anymore but they did
i always wanted to know why they didnt anymore

i find this stuff fascinating

[info]alliecat76

May 23 2004, 01:27:23 UTC 8 years ago

This looks very interesting, but:

I am not sure how to get my map done! I have a crappy 56k connection, so it may very well be that I am overlooking a link or something buried in a graphic that my computer isn't loading. Or maybe I just have "special needs." LOL... Anyway, could you please point me toward the URL/link that I should be at to get started? All I get on the mindmap page is something that allows me to "search" (which I click on, and then nothing comes thru), or to make a donation. Am I missing something? Thanks :)

[info]mcfnord

May 23 2004, 01:35:16 UTC 8 years ago

My computer just received your order!

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[info]dour

May 24 2004, 23:49:31 UTC 8 years ago

MindMap suggestions

I'm sure it would bump up the processing time, but I've got a request for additional features within the MindMap. This is one of the coolest social analysis tools I've seen, with the potential for genuine research value, and it seems to me that it would be significantly niftier if it wasn't limited to mutual "friends."

My "Friends" list is the list of people whose journals I like to read. My "Friend Of" list is the list of people who like to read my journal. Neither group has a monopoly on social connectedness, but there is also no such monopoly for those in both groups! Just to take an example from my own lists: I have [info]ursulav listed among my friends. Once in a while she'll glance at my journal and leave a comment, but the stuff I post doesn't interest her enough to justify cluttering her friends page with stuff she's just going to skim past. But she and I exchange comments often, and sometimes at great length, on her journal. This, I think, should be represented in my MindMap, and in hers (if she ever gets one).

For this, I would propose that on my MindMap, a person who I have friended but who has not friended me should be represented in, say, an outline font; and a person who has friended me but who I have not friended should be listed in parentheses. Links between these people and the others already listed could then be analyzed. This could of course be limited to only the paid, "color" MindMaps (which, being the only ones with connecting lines, are the truly useful ones anyway).

More complex, and difficult to implement within the current visual model, would be friends-of-friends. I know, even just one layer of this would exponentiate processing time. But I have already personally encountered an instance where it would be meaningful data, especially in combination with the one-way linkings described above: [info]batratblue has friended both [info]chipuni and [info]ursulav, but is friended by only [info]chipuni. However, he and I have exchanged comments on both of those journals, despite having no friend links with each other whatsoever. I haven't looked at the in-depth description of how you gather your data, and I'm not sure if that kind of diffuse-but-notable linkage can even be collected from the data LJ publishes, but it sure would be cool. ;)

One last minor request: currently, MindMaps are GIFs, which makes the color ones rather ugly due to dithering. 24-bit PNG would work better.

[info]mcfnord

May 25 2004, 04:33:15 UTC 8 years ago

Thanks for the feedback. You are getting at some issues I've thought about a lot recently. I consider something in this area as my Next Big Thing.

I've often reflected that personalizing and indivualizing each map to one person was a Good Idea. It makes each product meaningful to each individual. As a rule of thumb, mutual friendship bits mean something. But sometimes I see pitiful little MindMaps, and want to pad them out with non-mutual friends. What if your stalker appeared on your mindmap? Or people you don't like? Some emphasis of audience compels asking what is value, if not personal value? Is personal value ungenuine? Or is it the last value really left? In other words, could you identify what people want to research, that would call them to a colder tool, data not about them, a sea of random names?

If you can find an easy way to scan journal content to harvest names of people who maybe should be added to a journal, I will examine it... most of the value I've derived exists in a very clean, elegant dataset. Perhaps trawling through an RSS XML file could direct me to clues. It is another datapoint to examine. But it also sounds like an option. I don't know much about the RSS feeds, but I am skeptical whether they give comment details readily. Do you know?

I think you do raise a point that people you read could pad extra space first. I would like to govern these placements by presence of larger interrelationships, among your mutual friends, if only because interconnections are prettier than disconnected names around a center.

Perhaps there should be some visual indicator of non-mutual relationships, or perhaps not. I could see a sort of

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[info]devilshalo13

May 30 2004, 05:28:34 UTC 8 years ago

i'm a dumbass and deleted the e-mail saying my map was ready because it showed up as spam. how can i get my map?

[info]drexle

May 30 2004, 17:30:31 UTC 8 years ago

This is pretty interesting. I saw this mindmap in Shisochou's LJ, who found me a while back through Brandchan. Funny thing is that I actually knew Shisochou by a different name from a message forum(s?) a few years ago based around a common video game interest.

This is quite cool. I can't wait to see mine, even if it takes several months.

[info]drexle

May 30 2004, 17:32:09 UTC 8 years ago

Also, a couple of my friends used to live within 30 minutes of me, but moved away to a different state in February/March. I wonder how this will affect their positioning?

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[info]poisonkitty

May 31 2004, 02:43:20 UTC 8 years ago

The math behind social network analysis

Just, FYI, I recently found a fairly useful document that describes some of the math theory behind how social networks are explored and analyzed. People with a math background (set theory, graph theory, etc) may find this more useful than others.

http://www.analytictech.com/networks/graphtheorychap.doc

[info]neo_otacon

June 1 2004, 22:13:33 UTC 8 years ago

I had no clue that this theory could be represented visually. Thank you for proving me wrong.

[info]ocicat

June 3 2004, 17:58:54 UTC 8 years ago

Love the project... the inter-relationship web is one of the most interesting facets of LJ.

How often is the "big map" updated? I presume it uses the data from all the other mindmaps you've made, so it should be changing as more maps are created. But I also guess it probably takes a lot of computation, so you wouldn't want to do one frequently.

I was amused to find myself on the big map at all, then I found out that [info]metalmensch is your brother, and it somehow made more sense. I'm planning on ordering a color map, but first I need to get my paypal account straightened out...

[info]mcfnord

June 3 2004, 18:04:06 UTC 8 years ago

i love the big map concept but in truth the one up now took almost a half week to create (cuz my algorythm just can't take it), and really it's maybe 1% of the dataset I've scanned so far. I defer the future of big maps to someone with a bigger brain and cpu than I have!

But yeah, you'd be on it if you know my brother!

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[info]chasing_jamie

June 12 2004, 15:21:42 UTC 7 years ago

Hey! I requested mine early yesterday and never got an email? Should I retry?

[info]mcfnord

June 12 2004, 17:01:17 UTC 7 years ago

Curiously, production is stopped right now for the first time in weeks. I'm doing some maintenance. But here's the bad news: When it does get chugging again, there's a whopping three week wait in line. Some people kick back a buck or two, and they get theirs in a snap. Eventually I'll get another computer which will help.

[info]jameth

June 19 2004, 03:45:56 UTC 7 years ago

i've ordered a mindmap twice over the past like three months i think. I think. I dunno. I haven't received it. :(

[info]jameth

June 19 2004, 03:47:14 UTC 7 years ago

Nevermind. I just searched for it. YAY.

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[info]nomadshadows

June 20 2004, 14:42:33 UTC 7 years ago

Awesome Project

I found this thing really interesting. I have a close-knit group of friends, and the ones that I conisider "my family" were right there in big letters close to me- these are the ones that have all been friends for years, and no amount of distance (wheather in Dayton, South Dakota, or clear across the country in Washinton) has really been able to make us drift apart. My husband, my sister in law, and my cousin were all right there.

Our friendship wasn't planned. We all came together in different ways over a long period of time, and people came and went, but our core always stuck together. Sometimes we'd get people that would go off and form their own groups, and we just never thought anything of it, as long as we had each other it was all okay. It's taken us years to get to that core that's in the center of my map.

There are a couple people that are on the outside, right up above me, that are more my friends than friends with the rest of the group- everyone knows them, but they don't have the "family" bond with everyone that we have.

It was also interesting that the 3 people I have on my list that are connected to me through my cousin in Dayton were next to her.

You also asked about split-ups- last summer my group went through a major split. There were two other people that probably would have been in that inner cluster at one time, at first the fight was between my husband and I and these two, and it shook the stability of the whole group. We tried to keep it just between us, but everyone eventually got pulled in for one reason or another. It was very emotional for everyone, and there was a lot of shifting going on, but eventually we all settled back into where we are now, minus those two people. They're still on a few of the friends lists of my friends, mostly because of emotional or obligational attatchment. This is what I found most interesting about that: Some of the friends on the outskirts of my map still talk to them- but all the people on the inner cluster refuse to have anything to do with them, unless they absolutely have to. I beleive it's because we were closest at one time to them, and now it just hurts too much to even think about it.

I didn't know if you'd find that interesting or not. I did, and besides, you asked :P

[info]mcfnord

June 20 2004, 17:37:49 UTC 7 years ago

Thanks for your thoughtful reply. I see you display the map quite visibly in your lj, so I colorized it for ya. I love waking up to thoughtful commentary like yours.
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